3 Positive Parenting Strategies – How to Discipline Your Toddler
Copyright (c) 2012 Thomas Liotta and Bonnie Liotta
Parents seeking parenting advice on how to discipline their toddler are not alone. Everywhere you go, you will find a toddler in a power struggle with good parenting. In fact, we have come up with names for the ages. We have terrible twos, horrific threes and rebellious teenagers! Right?
What if a few simple changes in your parenting style approach would make all the difference between parenting and effective parenting?
When I found out about the effective techniques of Creating Champions for Life, now available to us in an online parenting program, it was a monumental, positive, life changing moment for my children and me. I raised my four children as a single mom, and although I thought I was a pretty great mom, I was beginning to have more and more power struggles as they grew a little older and I couldn’t understand it. If you are parenting toddlers right now, know that the power struggles of today will develop quietly and seductively over a period of 7-10 years, and then, trust me, time-outs, yelling and telling them what not to do won’t work anymore!
Here are 3 effective parenting solutions, from Thomas Liotta, creator of the Creating Champions for Life philosophy. Use these effective parenting strategies today with your toddler to see an automatic positive shift in results.
1. Pre-frame with your toddler before every activity.
Have a 2-5 minute conversation with your toddler. Yes, they can understand you. Tell them what you are doing and what you expect from them in the store, while at the same time, pay attention to what is important to your toddler. “When we are in the store today, little Timmy, we will be there for just a short time. I know that you want to play with this toy (or have a snack or a cookie or whatever it is that is important to your child), and when you are quiet, calm and well-behaved in the store, you will have earned getting to play with your favorite toy.” Stick to this and be consistent!!!
2. Offer positive praise to your child as often as you can.
It is often so easy to notice when your child acts up in the store. They are loud and, of course, it can be embarrassing. Your child is very intelligent and when they do well and are not recognized for it, they will act out to get attention from you. As early as possible, on your way into the store, you can say, “Little Timmy, look at how well you are doing. You are being quiet and cooperative. Well, aren’t you just the best 2 year old God ever created! Keep it up and you will earn yourself a cookie.” Continue with positive praise all the way out to the car after the event.
3. Operate in a yes mode with your toddler vs. a no, no, no mode.
In most cases, a baby will hear the word no hundreds of times a day more often than they will hear the word yes. When you catch your toddler doing something you do not like, simply tell them what they can do: “Little Timmy, people don’t play in the garbage can. It’s really dirty. Come play in the pots and pans drawer, play with these blocks, or draw Mommy a picture. Out of those three things, what would you like to do?”