Most women think all men are confident, sure of themselves and don’t have any problems getting women. Some men are like that, but a lot of them are not. I’ve known many shy men throughout my work life as a relationship counselor. And most don’t have any idea how to meet women or what to say to them.
In talking to women, I’ve discovered many great tips about women and dating:
Here’s just 5 of them
1. Do not try to meet women in bars. Just as women don’t usually want to meet a potential boyfriend in a bar, I wouldn’t suggest trying to meet a potential girlfriend in one. Bars are smoky loud and usually full of people who’ve had to much to drink. You’re not only usually going to find more of a Party Girl in a bar, but you’re more likely to be disappointed when you meet see in the light of day. In the bar, in her drunken stupor, you may have looked like somebody she wanted to get to know better. In daylight, things and people can look very different. No point setting yourself up for failure before you even start. So… avoid the bars!
2. Join some clubs. At first, don’t even bother trying to find a girlfriend. Just sign up for a few clubs or classes that YOU might find interesting. Walking clubs, movie nights, political organizations, dog walking groups, sports clubs, French classes, cooking classes, and computer classes. They’re all places where, most importantly, you’ll probably make some new friends. They’re also places where you might meet an interesting woman. And…when you do, she’ll most likely have something in common with you.
3.When you do meet a woman you like, don’t think of her as a potential girlfriend. The secret to a great relationship is to be a friend .. If you meet a woman you think you might like, get to know her first. Get it out of your head that she might be a potential girlfriend or wife. Instead, learn more about her, enjoy your time together and have fun.
When you do this, the woman is more comfortable and will feel less threatened. And she’ll let her guard down, and you won’t be worrying about trying to impress. That way, you’ll both be having a good time before you know it. And then…who knows what might happen?
4. Have her like you for you. Don’t try being somebody you’re not. Don’t pretend you’re a bad boy, a jerk, a ladies man etc. if you’re not. Women almost always hate that but, even if she likes it, who wants someone to fall in love with somebody they’re not anyway? You can’t keep up the charade for the
rest of your life, so why even start?
Be yourself. Relax. Talk about the things you have an interest in. Ask her questions about herself, find something you both have in common and discuss it. Then, even if she’s not ‘The One’, you still might have found someone you can talk to and she could turn out to be a great friend.
5. Just go for it! When you meet a woman and you feel that overpowering fear coming on and you just know you’re not going to have the courage to talk to her. Just do it. Forget the fear, take a deep breath, walk right over and say “Hi”. Women usually like the confident, strong, outgoing guys. But here’s a secret – MOST GUYS ARE FAKING IT. So, you can fake it too. Take a deep breath, relax your body, chin up, shoulders back and walk over there like you own the room. By the time you get there, she’ll think you do, and she’ll already be interested. This is what guys who are successful with women do. They all started by faking it and eventually they even convinced themselves. And then they weren’t faking it anymore.
With these 5 quick tips, you too can meet some great women and have the courage to talk to any woman. There are women everywhere. Make it a point every day to talk to at least three women you don’t know, even if it’s just the woman behind the drycleaner’s counter.
It’s good practice. Before you know it, you’ll be just as relaxed as the next guy and having fun while you’re at it. Good luck!
Ed Dillion is a dating and relationship expert. If you liked the tips in this article, and would like to find out more, visit his website.