Dating Advice: How To Avoid 3 Deadly Dating Traps And Prepare For A Fulfilling, Happy Relationship
Do you like the way the singles dating scene works today? If you ask most singles, they don’t. The old ways of dating just aren’t effective anymore. Why not? What is going on?
When I was in the dating scene, I remembered that I had a need to be happy. I was also afraid of being alone for the rest of my life. Sounds simple and innocent, doesn’t it? While my goal was to be happy in my relationships, I didn’t know how.
As a result, I mostly stumbled along the dating scene and made a lot of poor relationship choices that left me in some dating traps and feeling unhappy, afraid and confused. So let’s take a look at 3 deadly dating traps and how to avoid them so that you can prepare yourself for a fulfilling, happy relationship. A dating trap is an unsolvable problem that results in unhappiness in a relationship.
Dating Trap #1 – The Attraction Trap
When you fall into the Attraction Trap, you make relationship choices based on feelings of attraction. For example, you interpret a strong physical attraction to someone as a sign that the relationship is a good choice. This approach results in relationship failure because you ignored the red flags while infatuated.
Attraction is the radar that helps us find our partner. But when you are in the Attraction Trap, you are blindly following this radar. Rather than make relationship choices based on feelings of attraction, ask yourself why you are attracted to this person and if that person meets your relationship requirements.
How to Avoid: Balance your attractions by defining your Requirements and use them to scout, sort, and screen potential partners.
Dating Trap #2 – The Love Trap
This trap happens when you interpret infatuation, attraction, need, good sex, and/or attachment as love. If it feels good then it must be love. You feel so in love that it must be a great relationship. But after the infatuation goes away, you spend the rest of your time together just trying to get it back.
How to Avoid: Make conscious relationship choices by defining your Requirements and use them to scout, sort, and screen partners.
Dating Trap #3 – The Sex Trap
This is one of the biggest dating traps that Singles fall into. Falling into the Sex Trap means usually means one of two things:
1) Singles believe that sex is a necessary test of compatibility; that is, if the sex is good then the relationship will be good.
2) Or, more commonly, all consciousness goes away and both singles believe they are a committed couple because they had good sex.
How to avoid: Make conscious relationship choices by defining your requirements and actively use them to scout, sort, and screen potential partners. Remember and understand that a fulfilling relationship needs more than great sex to thrive.